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Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Friday, January 25, 2008
Failures: Communication
I've failed again. Not in an exam, but in acting in a way that's right. I know that if I don't write this, I will have a hard time remembering. And I want to remember.
Have not been communicating well with her again, though we see one another almost every night and spend time together, we don't (or at least I haven't been trying to) talk about the things that need to be talked about, be it sharing what happened in the day, or what our frustrations and stresses are.
The root reason is because we function differently when it comes to talking. She talks and shares a lot faster and freely. I need to warm up before I'm able to start, and even then I need to have an "attentive" (not changing the topic or focus to the listener's point of view or events) listener at the other end. So with this combination, I end up clamming up, she ends up doing most of the talking.
God has made me come to realize finally, that I've been totally self-centered in my thinking, and not seeking to be others-centered. Why is it that she has to conform to my standards and perceptions of a ready audience before I talk and communicate? True, it helps, but I'm talking about the situation where I totally shut up all the time. Remembering Paul in his letters, his life (emulating Christ's) shows real others-centeredness, summed up nicely in the phrase "...to the Jews, a Jew. To the Gentiles, a Gentile". Go to where they are! Not get others to conform to what you're like. Be in the world, though on of the world. Go out to them! If for things as ultimately important as spreading the goods news for people to be saved, we can be others-centered and consider others first, why can't we do the same thing for other things that are smaller, even trivial? Why shouldn't I?
In the process of learning to love her as Christ loved the church (both now before the wedding and also after the wedding), I do fail, and will still along the way. But God forbid that I stop thinking with the right mindset, and working to change, to love her more and more...
Have not been communicating well with her again, though we see one another almost every night and spend time together, we don't (or at least I haven't been trying to) talk about the things that need to be talked about, be it sharing what happened in the day, or what our frustrations and stresses are.
The root reason is because we function differently when it comes to talking. She talks and shares a lot faster and freely. I need to warm up before I'm able to start, and even then I need to have an "attentive" (not changing the topic or focus to the listener's point of view or events) listener at the other end. So with this combination, I end up clamming up, she ends up doing most of the talking.
God has made me come to realize finally, that I've been totally self-centered in my thinking, and not seeking to be others-centered. Why is it that she has to conform to my standards and perceptions of a ready audience before I talk and communicate? True, it helps, but I'm talking about the situation where I totally shut up all the time. Remembering Paul in his letters, his life (emulating Christ's) shows real others-centeredness, summed up nicely in the phrase "...to the Jews, a Jew. To the Gentiles, a Gentile". Go to where they are! Not get others to conform to what you're like. Be in the world, though on of the world. Go out to them! If for things as ultimately important as spreading the goods news for people to be saved, we can be others-centered and consider others first, why can't we do the same thing for other things that are smaller, even trivial? Why shouldn't I?
In the process of learning to love her as Christ loved the church (both now before the wedding and also after the wedding), I do fail, and will still along the way. But God forbid that I stop thinking with the right mindset, and working to change, to love her more and more...
Enso is free
For the uninitiated, Enso has two products: Enso Launcher (similar to Launchy) and Enso Words (universal spellchecker)
I use Launchy a lot now, but have yet to compare this with Enso Launcher. Another time perhaps =P
I use Launchy a lot now, but have yet to compare this with Enso Launcher. Another time perhaps =P
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Firefox's About: pages and ErrorZilla
Was looking around for Firefox about pages, found out that there's quite a few interesting ones as listed in here.
Another interesting find was the ErrorZilla extension, which customizes your error page with some more tools (somewhat like a custom 404 page). [Edit] The link to install the extension is not available anymore, but you can get similar extensions from Firefox's add-on gallery.
Another interesting find was the ErrorZilla extension, which customizes your error page with some more tools (somewhat like a custom 404 page). [Edit] The link to install the extension is not available anymore, but you can get similar extensions from Firefox's add-on gallery.
Sunday, January 13, 2008
Wednesday, January 09, 2008
Today, more brothers and sisters came to know of the problem we face, whilst sharing and all.
While it's really heartening that people show genuine love in their concern, I'm also apprehensive at sharing that easily.
One reason is that it's really embarrassing for me to talk about it. The next is that keeping emotions in check whilst talking about it is still a pretty great feat for me. Also, it somehow isn't very nice to wantonly the whole wide world know about it.
Am grateful for all the family that God has brought in and around. I hope this will resolve as soon as possible, God willing...
While it's really heartening that people show genuine love in their concern, I'm also apprehensive at sharing that easily.
One reason is that it's really embarrassing for me to talk about it. The next is that keeping emotions in check whilst talking about it is still a pretty great feat for me. Also, it somehow isn't very nice to wantonly the whole wide world know about it.
Am grateful for all the family that God has brought in and around. I hope this will resolve as soon as possible, God willing...
Google Reader Shared Items
In case you haven't noticed, I've started my Google Reader Shared Items link here (RSS here) in the sidebar further down. Here I'll share the stuff that I find interesting/"important". Feel free to read and discuss/comment eh ;)
Tuesday, January 08, 2008
Revelations thorugh adversity
When times are getting tough for whatever reason, usually a person's true thoughts are drawn out.
Am really grateful and appreciative of Fen for what has been revealed of her from what has been happening these past few months. It must be pretty unnerving to be working towards a marriage with in-laws who're potentially...hard to relate to.
Am really grateful and appreciative of Fen for what has been revealed of her from what has been happening these past few months. It must be pretty unnerving to be working towards a marriage with in-laws who're potentially...hard to relate to.
VMware Server
For those who use VMware player for any reason, VMware Server is available for free. I don't know how long it is going to remain free, but it's certainly better to use (more configuration options available, though making it more complicated) if you are trying out a few virtual machines.
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